Why Do We Push and Pull in Relationships? Understanding Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Patterns
Have you ever felt like you’re always chasing closeness while your partner keeps pulling away—or the reverse, where you feel overwhelmed and need space just as they need connection most? You’re not alone. Many couples find themselves caught in this painful dance, unsure how to step out of the cycle.
What’s Really Going On Beneath the Surface?
Attachment theory helps us make sense of these patterns. It’s not necessarily that one partner cares more than the other—rather, each is trying to feel safe, in ways that can unintentionally trigger the other.